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WHO ARE YOU TODAY?

WHO ARE YOU TODAY?   I woke up a few mornings ago and after rolling around for awhile under the covers to try to protect myself from our  adorable, new puppy’s incredibly sharp, blood-drawing, epithet-producing baby teeth, (seriously, she’s just turned four months old and has already won the hearts of every person she’s met but you… read more

YOU CAN GET USED TO ANYTHING

YOU CAN GET USED TO ANYTHING   …and that’s the problem   That is the problem…    I’ll never forget my first “real” job, (apart from lifeguarding…) I couldn’t have been more excited. I burst into work the first day with all the energy and optimism my dad (the original “motivator” in our family) had pumped… read more

RIGHT NOW, ISN’T THIS GOOD…?

RIGHT NOW, ISN’T THIS GOOD…? Whenever I told my mom about an especially wonderful moment – with my daughters, in my work, in my life – she’d say, “Wrap your arms around it, darling!”    She meant for me to “get it” about how good it was, to hold onto it – so I could… read more

BELIEVING IS SEEING…

BELIEVING IS SEEING…   I know, I know, it’s supposed to be the other way around. But it isn’t.    The fact is, the greater your expectations, the greater your experiences. Seriously, it’s as simple as that.    The University of London did a study on “the power of positive expectations” and found that those people… read more

IS ANYBODY LISTENING?

IS ANYBODY LISTENING?  Seriously! Everybody’s talking. Everybody’s saying what they think – whether they know anything about the “subject” or not.    Hey, expressing our points of view is a good thing. But not when they’re not “enlightened” by some sort of knowledge based on information that’s based on “facts”    Okay, “facts” are in short supply; they… read more

HAPPY TALK, KEEP TALKIN’ HAPPY TALK!” …AT YALE

HAPPY TALK, KEEP TALKIN’ HAPPY TALK!” …AT YALE  Otherwise known as Psyc 157, “Psychology and the Good Life”   You probably read the piece about “positive psychology” in the NY Times a few weeks ago. The course, taught by Laurie Santos, 42, a psychology professor and the head of one of Yale’s residential colleges, decided to… read more

“LOVE IS REFLECTED IN LOVE”

“LOVE IS REFLECTED IN LOVE”   Those are the first words I learned in Sunday School about a million years ago.    I never forgot them.   And these last few days they’ve acted as a kind of antidote for the horrific acts of hatred committed by a lone gunman inside the high school he’d… read more

“GET A COACH!”

“GET A COACH!”   I listened to a “Ted Talk” this weekend that was sent to me by my very good friend, Dede Bartlett, that knocked me out.    It was given by Atul Gawande, an American surgeon, writer, and public health researcher who practices general and endocrine surgery at Brigham and Women’s Hospital in Boston, Massachusetts.  … read more

HOW TO BE FORGETTABLE…

HOW TO BE FORGETTABLE… I know, I know, you’re wondering if that’s a typo right? As a communications coach, I’ve written and spoken frequently about the “Seven Steps to Being Unforgettable.” But that was before I heard President Trump give his State of the Union Address last Tuesday night. Seriously, if there had been a “groaning… read more

FOLLOW YOUR OWN ROAD…wherever it leads

FOLLOW YOUR OWN ROAD…wherever it leads  There’s a thoroughly charming book by the wonderful children’s author, Arnold Lobel, that I read to Kate and Abigail when they were little, called Grasshopper on the Road. It’s about a grasshopper who decided one morning to go on a journey… “I will find a road,” he said, “I will follow that road wherever… read more